Somebody Else’s Child.

We have been given somebody else’s child!

That fact is astonishing.

We have been given what has to be the most valuable gift one could ever receive, the gift of a human being – a life.

A life to raise with our values, our ideals.

I think sometimes the magnitude of this act is lost in the fact that there are no benefactors and that it is generally understood that in fact the gift has actually been taken away from others.

Also I think it is often perceived that the children are the ones receiving, after all they are getting the parents that they don’t have, a family to be part of, they are getting a life that is hopefully full of love and full of hope.

But that is not a gift – surely that should just simply be a given for all children.

However it is truly a gift to us the adopters and it is immense.

We are receiving the gift of somebody else’s child, the gift of becoming parents, parents of a child we love and cherish as our own.

The gift of somebody else’s child who we watch develop and mature and who are the sons or daughters we have always wanted.

Somebody else’s child who calls us Daddy or Mummy.

A child who becomes our child. No… who IS our child from the moment we meet.

We must never lose sight of just how incredible that is.

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3 thoughts on “Somebody Else’s Child.

  1. This is so on point and for me timely as I’ve just written my first contact letter to my daughter’s birth parents. Thanks for putting so clearly what I try to explain whenever someone says how luck my child is. I’m the lucky one.

  2. So true. I am constantly aware of how painful a choice my child’s birth mother made in giving this gift. I am always grateful and try and ensure my daughter sees my gratitude and compassion for the giver. I hope it helps her with her sense of loss.

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