A call out for words. The Questions.

wpid-img-1407228241252-v.jpgThe well of new blog posts is an ever changing, random business, sometimes overflowing and sometime a little on the dry side so I’m mixing it up.

I know it can be hard to sit down and put pen to paper (or finger to keyboard) so we’re off on a new tack with something I have inventively called (drum roll please)…The Questions. 

If you don’t have a burning issue that you are desperate to get off your chest (please share those too though) and are just getting on with the day to day of  family life – This may well be just your cup of tea. It is simply a list of questions about family life. All posts will be anonymous but provide a welcome and sneaky peak into how others do their day to day.

All questions are optional so you can pick and choose or miss as many as you like, and you can even add your own in if you want.

OK, I’m going to kick this off by answering them myself!

How and when does your child/children wake you in the morning

By charging into our bedroom and climbing into the bed with a massive teddy bear called Billy. If we do not wake up and start talking she immediately says “This plan isn’t working. It’s Good Morning time and you need to get up”  It’s usually 9am if I’m lucky. 8am if I’m not. (I know I know… this is quite late..)

Why adoption?

I was interested in adoption for many years but had no real knowledge of how to go about applying. I was under the impression it was a lengthy and difficult process and that may not come to fruition. I’m so  proud to say we have managed it. It is by far the best thing I have done in my life.

From start of assessment to bringing your child home how long did the process take?

I think around 2 years.

How could it be improved?

I think it could easily be made quicker and they could add in some proper preparation for Introductions part of the process which I found quite overwhelming.

What has been the biggest surprise?

How totally fulfilling it is. I constantly have to pinch myself and my heart wants to burst with love.

How was the assessment process? Long but better than I had imagined. Some bits were weird; we were asked to wrote poems.

What’s your favourite thing to do together? My daughter and I like swimming, playing hide and seek in the park and doing  eskimo kisses followed by butterfly kisses (Eyelashes tickling each others cheeks)

What makes you and your family laugh? Mostly our dog but also doing silly faces and voices. Putting each other’s shoes on is popular too.

The best thing about being a parent? Watching and nurturing a little soul.

The hardest thing about being a parent? Coming face to face with your own shortcomings.

The piece of wisdom you would pass on to a child? Make sure you laugh as much and as often as you can. 

What time do you go to bed? Usually about 10.30 after falling asleep on the sofa.

 

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4 thoughts on “A call out for words. The Questions.

  1. My child wakes up at 06.15 and will lie in his bed for about 15 minutes before calling ‘mummy’ ‘daddy’. He will then come in our bed for a few minutes and then ask for breakfast.

    From assessment to taking our child home took five months. The whole process was a little intrusive but we had a very good social worker who made us feel relaxed and at ease.
    I go to bed around 9 most nights.

  2. Here’s mine…

    How and when does your child/children wake you in the morning

    Both girls wake at 7am. On the dot. Without fail. Whichever one wakes first usually starts calling ‘daddy’ louder and louder until one of us goes in to them but sometimes they will amuse themselves by jumping up and down in their cots.

    Why adoption?

    Being a gay couple it was either adoption or surrogacy. There are so many children needing adoption we felt that surrogacy wasn’t for us.

    From start of assessment to bringing your child home how long did the process take?

    18 months from going to the open day to the girls arriving.

    How could it be improved?

    It could be better joined up around the country, with more consistency across agencies and more joint working to ensure that children do not wait in care unnecessarily.

    What has been the biggest surprise?

    How overcome with happiness (and tears) I can get when doing simple things like reading a story, or playing houses with the girls or watching them play with each other.

    How was the assessment process?

    Some of it felt necessarily long and there was a fair amount of duplication. The problem is that during the process one puts up with it as one wants to have a happy ending. Afterwards one is too busy with ones new family life to help change the system.

    What’s your favourite thing to do together?

    Singing songs together and cuddling.

    What makes you and your family laugh?

    Tickling each other and doing silly dances.

    The best thing about being a parent?

    Seeing a little personality develop.

    The hardest thing about being a parent?

    It’s relentlessness.

    The piece of wisdom you would pass on to a child?

    The world is your oyster.

    What time do you go to bed?

    I absolutely refuse to go to bed before 11pm, which generally means I am asleep on the sofa by about 10pm.

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